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here is my "position" on money, by anna purrington adams:

i am done worrying about it, i have stopped being stressed about it starting last year after KRIS SCOTT aka THE DUKE OF ASH ruined our house and i had to pretty much charge MY LIFE AWAY for about 4months and then periodically here and there in the months following because i birthed another child and wasn't working much. having your house ripped apart and then being told that 1000300200202 more things are wrong with it that need to get fixed, whether you want to or not (whether you can afford them or not) has a way of creating a severely indifferent attitude when it comes to money or debt.

which brings me to the topic of debt. i am of course, still paying for my student loans. i put myself through school, took out my own loans, and chose my own path with no help from anyone but visa, mastercard, and discover (nelnet and firstmark too, i guess). we jumped right into parenthood and home ownership once i was finished, despite the fact that i did not have a money-making job. in fact, i quit my semi-lucrative part time job at northwest because it was more stress than i was willing to put up with and went to starbucks, with way less stress, well, none really, but for WAY less money. as in hardly any whatsoever. free coffee though, that's pretty great. because i have these "conditions" which i chose with my eyes wide open, i have a shit load of debt. i don't really get upset about this, because that's how it had to be.

now, the reason i write this today is because i made a realization. i am very short on patience (especially after duke of ash situation) when it comes to money. is there a way that i could be totally playing it straight, not accumulating any more debt and actually establishing a paydown situation that will get us up and out? absolutely. however, it occurred to me today, that the rest of the world (read: people who HAVE the money and CONTROL the money) are miserly Matt-Rolen-ey GOBLINS who make it difficult for the rest of us to just live the way we want, and i'm not into letting other people decide when or where i spend my money. if you ask me, it's suspicious and abnormal to not have debt. of all the people i know of who are financially in a good position right now, i can think of ONE GUY who went out and did it on his own, no help from parents, scholarships, trust funds, or anything else. if i waited around for "legitimacy" i would have been 91 years old, childless, and still not done with college.

sorry, i had to get that out in the open.